After a long pause, i started writting again, Like other posts, i would like to start with a quote.
I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strangely, I am ungrateful to these teachers - Kahlil Gibran
I came across many people with different levels of intolerance. Before going in to detail, let us define Tolerance. Let me try my own.
Remain unaffected/unswayed by not undergoing any unproductive feelings, doings & thinkings caused majorly by external triggers.
Now lets connect with some example to understand it better.
One 4 and half members family is engaged in watching a movie. The Half member - A charming Kid is around 2 years old. Kids are naturally more energetic than their elders. The movie was not very appealing to the kid, but the 4 elders parents and grandparents of the kid were completely inside the 21" TV screen.
The kid was experssing his unhappiness by yelling out "mammmaaaaaa.. change it.. papppaaaaaa change it..." No one was listening this. After waiting for some time, the kid went near the TV and switched it OFF in an important scene.. the 4 were yelling at the kid.. the mother swithced on the TV again. Again the kid swithced OFF the TV, this time the kid's father threw the remote control on the kid. Now he is gasping and yelling at the kid, "why did you do thattttt..grrr". Though it wasn't hurting the kid physically, that becomes a reason for the kid to cry loudly. Other 3 were looking at the father of the kid. He looked ugly now, while trying to switch on the TV.
What made the father to act baleful on such a lovalbe and innocent kid? The straight answer is "Intolerance". Not only the kid got hurt here, the grandparents (who are kids by now because of their "second childness") , his wife and finally kid's father himself. By acting so, he missed the movie he wanted to watch, he made the entire environment filled with sorrow, and he is slowly moving towards getting a title of youngest BP/Diabatic/blah blah blah patient.
what he would have lost by tuning to the kids need and yet watch the movie he wanted to watch. i don't know he could have done it, but defeintely it is not "Mission Impossible".
Father of the kid forget or haven't accepted the fact that "Kids are playful, they normally do this kind of things". He wasn't living in reality or he wasn't remembering the fact at the time of his shameful act.
I end this post with a quote,
When tolernace is not afforded to those so well-deserved, it speaks ill of the one who feels he cannot afford to give it.
As rightly said by Kahlil Gibran, we will learn tolerance from intolerent.
There could be some more reasons also for his baleful act. In my next several posts we will analyse and try to find a way to develope tolerance.
I feel Therefore I am,
Money Well.
In one of his books Swami Vivekanada goes one step further and say (religious)'tolerance' isnt enough. Its means you dont like them but you merely 'tolerate' them with great patience..but it could break anyday.
ReplyDeleteHe asks the readers to take it higher with 'acceptance'- you know they are different in belief and actions, and learn to accept their ways and live as one..